By Janice Selbie, MPCC Grief does not require belief in the supernatural. The recent tragedy in Tumbler Ridge, BC, has shaken many of us. I have loved ones impacted by this loss, and like so many of you, I have felt that familiar drop in the stomach that comes when something unthinkable happens. In the days that followed, I recorded a reel with a simple message: Atheists mourn. We mourn deeply, fully, and fiercely. Grief is not owned by religion. It is owned by love. Yet when tragedy...

By Janice Selbie, MPCC When Belief Feels Like Safety As a clinical counsellor specializing in Religious Trauma Syndrome, I have worked for years with individuals recovering from high-control belief systems. Many describe the same emotional arc: immersion that feels safe, followed by relational disconnection, and later a painful realization marked by grief, shame, and loss of trust in one’s own judgment. Seeing similar patterns show up in AI-based beliefs has felt clinically familiar and, for...

By Janice Selbie, MPCC For many people recovering from religious trauma or authoritarian upbringings, anger does not arrive on time. It shows up late. Sometimes decades late. This can be confusing, frightening, or even shame-inducing, especially for those who were taught that anger was dangerous, sinful, or morally suspect. But late-arriving anger is not a failure of healing. On the contrary, it is often a sign that healing has begun. Late-arriving anger often reflects increased safety, not ...